EPISODE SUMMARY
We talk to David Neal about the nuances of good leadership. David Neal has a decade of experience in the Military, with most of his experience in leadership roles. He is currently a Director at Eighth Mile Consulting.
EPISODE NOTES
1:39 - from enemies to best mates.
6:12 - there is nothing noble about being harmless.
7:06 - avoiding or engaging with conflict.
7:27 - what makes a leader?
8:50 - good leadership looks different in different contexts.
11:40 - the leadership style in the military.
12:59 - how values and beliefs impact team performance.
15:12 - navigating the conflicts that arise from having a diverse team.
15:35 - definition of leadership.
16:30 - diversity is contextual. What are you trying to achieve?
18:43 - are you trying to be right or correct?
20:36 - leaders represent people authentically in forums where they cannot represent themselves.
22:18 - trying to be right disengages people around you.
23:41 - it's better to lose the battle and keep the relationship, especially with your kids.
25:07 - extreme ownership and admitting mistakes.
27:28 - where the name Eighth Mile Consulting came from.
29:18 - owning our mistakes turns our weakness into a strength.
31:39 - owning your faults increases your credibility and your ability to influence.
32:55 - steelman and strawman debating tactics.
36:01 - influence starts by listening, not speaking.
38:14 - it takes discipline to shut up and listen.
41:55 - I don't have time to listen.
44:02 - why boundaries give more freedom.
52:14 - boundaries with children.
54:46 - just do what makes you happy is terrible advice.
56:46 - the standard you walk past is the standard you accept.
58:18 - sometimes leaders only have bad options to choose from.
1:00:14 - leadership is not about you.
1:02:44 - a leader's reputation is their influence.
1:06:1 - making an unpopular decision that you believe will be best for the long term.
1:10:49 - reputation is based on your character but not fully in your own control.
1:12:57 - how to become more self-aware as leaders.
1:15:30 - everyone is a leader.
1:16:11 - how to create a safe space for people to speak up.
1:18:55 - empathy saved the world.
1:24:7 - our ego can be our greatest enemy.
1:26:12 - connect with David Neal."
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: (https://candourpodcast.com/david-neal/)"
